A loved one is becoming unable to perform daily activities independently, such as dressing, bathing, and eating, what can I do?

May 30, 2023
Susie Sweiger, Executive Director, BrightStar Care of Carlsbad
As a caregiver, it can be challenging to witness your aging loved one's declining ability to perform daily activities independently, such as dressing, bathing, and eating. At BrightStar Care of Carlsbad, we are here to offer guidance and support to you and your family that can help your loved one remain in the comfort and safety of their home. Here are some steps you can take to address the situation:
  1. Assess the situation: Begin by assessing your loved one's needs and abilities. Observe their current capabilities and identify specific tasks they are struggling with, like dressing, bathing, or eating. This assessment will help determine the level of care required and the potential risks involved.  Then, discuss who is willing and able to provide that level of care on an ongoing basis.
  2. Discuss in-home support options: Engage your loved one in an open conversation about their needs and preferences. If they are open to it, consider discussing the benefits of professional home care services. Our highly trained caregivers can provide personalized assistance, while respecting your loved one's independence, giving you peace of mind and allowing you to focus more on quality time.
  3. Seek medical advice: It's crucial to consult with your loved one's healthcare provider to evaluate their overall health and determine if any underlying medical conditions contribute to their declining abilities. The healthcare provider can also recommend appropriate treatments, therapies, or medications to manage the situation effectively.
  4. Create a comprehensive care plan: Developing a care plan is essential to ensure your loved one receives the necessary support. BrightStar can assist you in creating a personalized care plan that outlines specific tasks requiring assistance, the frequency of care needed, and the roles of both family members and our professional caregivers.
  5. Explore community resources: There are many local community resources available that can provide valuable support for you and your loved one. BrightStar can help connect you with a wide range of organizations such as senior centers, adult day programs, medical professionals, associations, support groups, legal advisors, Medicare/MediCal experts, veterans assistance programs, home health, hospice and more.
  6. Adapt the living environment: Making necessary modifications to the living environment can enhance your loved one's safety and independence. BrightStar can provide recommendations and referrals to experts in installing grab bars, removing trip hazards, arranging furniture for easier mobility, and more. We can also suggest assistive devices like shower chairs, reachers, or utensil grips to help with daily activities.
  7. Educate and involve family members: It's crucial to keep all family members informed and educated about your loved one's condition, needs, and care plan. BrightStar encourages family involvement in caregiving responsibilities to share the load and provide emotional support.
  8. Take care of yourself: As a caregiver, it's important to prioritize your own well-being. BrightStar appreciates the physical and emotional toll of caregiving and can provide respite care services to give you breaks when needed. We also encourage you to consider ongoing support from our caregivers and care management team.
Remember, every situation is unique, and BrightStar's dedicated team of caregivers and care management professionals are here to provide personalized assistance based on your loved one's specific needs and circumstances. Contact us today to learn more about how our home care services can support your family during this challenging time. 
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